While walking along beautiful Mission Creek one morning I thought about the 'Identity Crisis' I had recently experienced. I knew I wasn't the same person that I used to be and yet I was in the midst of re-inventing who I have become.

I know many of you will be able to relate to feeling a sense of loss in many aspects of your life as you evolve into your new identity. We find that many of our relationships don't feel comfortable any longer. Some will just naturally fall away and with others you may find one or both of you trying to hang on in spite of it being very uncomfortable. We are so conditioned, especially as women, to keep friendships going, and our insecurities such as fear of rejection or people pleasing can surface while we grapple with letting go. Remembering that everything is energy and carries a certain frequency, it only makes sense that we won't always resonate to others' frequency and it is often time to let go and move on. Hanging on for dear life not only can hinder your moving forward but it may also limit your friend's, family member's or partner's growth. The marriage vows of "Do you take this man/woman to be your lawfully wedded husband/wife, to have and to hold, from this day forward, for better, for worse, for richer, for poorer, in sickness and health, until death do us part?", I feel are very outdated and just aren't relevant to these times and especially for Old Souls. At this time as we move into the Aquarian Age some of us are not to be in a committed love relationship, others are to be for a brief time or a long time, depending on what we have signed up for. Love relationships can be a distraction to moving fully into offering our gifts and abilities. While on the other hand that may be the perfect opportunity to have your lessons mirrored back to you and your partner. It is truly all about discernment as to whether this relationship is holding you and/or your partner back or not.

I believe there are numerous 'probabilities' or 'potentials' that we have written into our soul contract. Depending on the choices we make moment to moment, that will affect the outcome and what transpires in our life. Because I have been willing (with much resistance and fear at times), to honor my journey and many of my counterparts along the way, the door is now open to new relationships that are energetically fulfilling and compatible. Approximately 6 months ago I met a woman briefly and we both realized there was a very strong connection between us. I e-mailed her not long after our meeting and she wrote that she would be in touch. During these past 6 months we both have been on a very similar path and gone through a lot of personal transformational experiences. I didn't hear back from her again so I decided to sign up for her newsletter and stay informed that way. Last week I contacted her and she wrote that she had sent me a number of e-mails but they were always returned to her. I found that so interesting as that was just another example of 'Divine Timing' working it's magic. My temporary upside down world has finally settled down and she is also starting a whole new adventure in her life so it is now time to physically connect with each other.

I am finding many of my clients are feeling very 'pulled' to live somewhere else and some are taking the action required. Others are feeling it very strongly but are still trying to ignore it or push it into the 'maybe someday' category. It takes a lot of courage, trust and faith to go into the unknown. Once the action is taken, only then can you look back and say "Thank Goodness I made the move" which was in alignment with your soul contract. This allows you and your counterparts to experience a whole array of new experiences and relationships making them realities instead of just 'potentialities or probabilities'. Again it is about Divine Timing so each of us needs to look at the motives or reasons for not moving and making the decision based on fulfilling our Highest Good rather than our fearful ego's.

Having just thought about what I titled this article, I realized the only reason we call it an Identity 'Crisis' is because our fearful or terrified ego is not happy with all the changes required. It is so afraid to let go of the known and venture into the unknown. I would prefer to think of it as an 'Identity Adventure' as that is truly what it is. You may want to ask yourself if there are any areas in your life that no longer resonate with who you are now, such as relationships, jobs, or your current location.